a crush is an informal term for feelings of love ,
romance, or infatuation , often felt by young
people during their childhood and
adolescence. It is named for its
resemblance to the adoring, worshipful
affection that may be felt by a puppy . It
may also be able to describe short-term
love interest.
The term is often used in a derogatory
fashion, describing emotions which are
shallow and transient in comparison to
other forms of love such as romantic love.
Crush is a very widespread experience
in the process of maturing. It may be
difficult to not have cases of "puppy love"
sometime during the maturing process. The object of attachment may be a peer ,
but the term can also be used to describe
the fondness of a child for an adult, for
example, students being attracted to their
teachers, their friends' parents, or children
to older celebrities: indeed, some consider
that in puppy love 'usually the object of
such infatuation is some highly idealised
person who is some years older—a teacher,
a friend of the family, an actor, or rock
star'—and typically the sufferer 'greatly
moved with emotion...spending much time
in daydreams and wishful fantasies
about them.
Just as our bodies grow as we get older, so
do our feelings. They change and mature as
we become preteens, teenagers, and adults. A
crush is a word used to describe special
feelings you have for another person, a
classmate, or friend that you really like. Noticing your first crush is an exciting time in
life because you're beginning to understand
how it feels to like another person — a lot!
Sometimes, feelings for a crush can be
confusing because they're new to you and you
aren't sure how to act. You could have mixed
feelings. When you see your crush, a part of
you might feel embarrassed and you might
want to run away and hide. Another part of
you might imagine your crush noticing you
and sharing the same feelings.
Crushes are a little bit like the romantic love
adults feel toward one another. And in a way,
a crush can help us think about the kind of
person that we want to love when we grow
up. They help us understand which qualities
we notice and like in another person — and
maybe a few that we don't like. You can't choose your crushes. Sometimes
they sneak up on you and — wow — who was
that? Your crush might be a classmate, a
neighbor, your best friend's crush, an older
kid, a friend of your brother or sister, a sister
or brother of a friend, or a teacher at your
school.
Your crush could even be on someone you
don't know, like a professional athlete or a
celebrity. When the crush is on someone you
don't know, you might imagine what that
person is like. Maybe you think about what it
would be like to meet that person, even
though you know you probably never will. It's
still fun to imagine!
You might find
yourself writing the name of your crush over
and over again in a notebook or telling a
good friend about that special person you like
so much. Crushes might last a few days,
weeks, months, or longer.
If you feel strange around your crush, you're
not alone. That's how most people feel
around their crushes. You might feel shy or
giddy or maybe even shy and giddy all at
once! Some people can't remember what they
want to say when they see their crush. They
feel speechless, or tongue-tied.
Some kids might chase their crushes around
the playground, call them on the phone, or
tease them to get attention. This might make
a person feel uncomfortable. Have you ever
felt this way? It can be hard to control how
you feel, but the rules of good behavior still
apply. If your crush doesn't want to talk with
you or it seems like you're making the person
uncomfortable, it's time to back off.
Likewise, never let anyone behave in a way
that makes you feel funny or uncomfortable.
It's never OK for anyone — a kid or a grown-
up — to do or ask things of you that don't feel
right. That's not a good crush.
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